In this transformative episode, Ardenia embarks on a deeply personal journey, sharing her decision to take a sabbatical and embrace her "Soft Life Summer." This episode is a call to mothers everywhere to prioritize self-care, reject the glorification of busyness, and dismantle the toxic relationship with overwork. Ardenia explores the concept of the soft life not as a luxury but as a fundamental necessity for well-being, highlighting the importance of creating space for leisure, rest, and activities that fulfill the soul. Through her story, she encourages mothers to break free from societal expectations, to learn to say no, and to invest in their happiness and health without guilt. This episode is not just a narrative of personal transformation but an invitation to all mothers to redefine success, embrace ease and joy, and truly take care of themselves in a world that often asks too much.
What Is The Soft Life?
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Conversations on Race, Privilege, and Empathy:
Why Moms Need to Engage
Difficult conversations are often the most necessary. Here’s why moms must lean into discussions about race, privilege, and empathy to foster a more just world.
Why Race Conversations Matter for Moms
Parenting comes with unique challenges, but raising children in a world marked by inequality presents additional complexities. Whether we’re discussing the safety of our children in different contexts or acknowledging systemic challenges, moms have a responsibility to engage in honest dialogue about race.
One powerful example is the stark difference in conversations white and Black moms have with their sons about driving. While one mom may worry about texting and driving, another fears an encounter with law enforcement that could turn deadly. The stakes are different, but the desire to see our children come home safely is universal.
Privilege Isn’t What You Think
Privilege isn’t a dirty word, nor does it mean you haven’t faced hardship. Privilege often reflects what you don’t have to worry about in your day-to-day life. Moms, regardless of background, need to recognize that privilege manifests in various ways—racial, socio-economic, educational, and more.
For example, many of us grew up hearing, “My ancestors didn’t own slaves, so I don’t benefit.” But this statement misses the point. Acknowledging privilege isn’t about guilt or blame; it’s about recognizing systemic advantages and working toward equity.
Understanding Implicit Bias and Empathy
Conversations about race often trigger defensiveness, but empathy allows us to connect as humans. Even if you haven’t walked in someone else’s shoes, you can imagine their pain and challenges. As moms, we can start by educating ourselves and teaching our children about empathy, history, and social justice.
Tackling Trigger Words and Realities
Words like “white supremacy,” “oppression,” and “privilege” often make people shut down. But avoiding these terms doesn’t make the issues go away. By understanding our own biases and discussing them openly, we can foster better communities for our children.
Engaging in Everyday Advocacy
You don’t have to be a politician or a CEO to make a difference. Small acts of advocacy—conversations at the dinner table, discussions at PTA meetings, or efforts to make your workplace inclusive—can have ripple effects.
Books to Read for Deeper Understanding
Nice Racism by Robin DiAngelo
So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man by Emmanuel Acho
Motherhood is political, and by engaging in conversations about race, we shape a better, more inclusive future for our kids.