In this essential episode, Ardenia opens a profound dialogue on race and parenting, highlighting the pivotal role mothers play in shaping their children's understanding of racial dynamics. Through the narrative of two mothers preparing their sons for the outside world—one white, one black—Ardenia illustrates the starkly different conversations happening in homes across America. This episode challenges misconceptions about discussing race with children, emphasizing that such conversations are not about loss of innocence but about fostering empathy and understanding. Ardenia argues against the notion that having friends of different races exempts one from racial biases and underlines the importance of education in confronting uncomfortable truths. Through this mom-to-mom heart-to-heart, Ardenia invites listeners to reflect on their responsibilities, advocating for honest discussions about race, privilege, and empathy from an early age, and calls for an empathetic approach to teaching and understanding American history in its full context.
The Tea On C.R.T :
Critical Race Theory Pt. 1
Episode Blog
Why Moms Must Lead the Conversation on Race:
Starting at Home
Conversations about race aren’t just for politicians and pundits—they’re essential at home. Here’s why moms need to lead these talks with their children and how to approach it with honesty and courage.
Setting the Stage for Change
When it comes to race, moms are their children’s first teachers. While social media and school can play a role, it’s what happens at home that lays the foundation for how kids view and understand race and culture. This isn’t just a political issue—it’s a parenting issue that shapes the world our children grow up in.
Imagine two moms with teenage sons. One mom’s focus is on typical driving rules—no texting, no loud music, and staying safe. The other mom, a Black mother, must also teach her son how to survive encounters with law enforcement. These differences highlight the importance of discussing race openly. Both moms love and want to protect their sons, but the conversations look radically different due to racial realities.
Misconceptions About Talking to Kids About Race
“My Kids Are Too Young”
Many moms believe their children are too young to learn about race. But if kids are old enough to understand kindness and respect, they’re old enough for age-appropriate conversations about race. Use moments of curiosity—questions about skin color or cultural differences—as opportunities for open dialogue.“I Don’t Want to Ruin Their Innocence”
Protecting children is every parent’s instinct, but avoiding conversations about race doesn’t shield them; it limits their understanding. Black and brown parents often have these talks at an early age because they must. Sheltering kids from reality can prevent them from developing empathy and the tools to navigate a diverse world.“Having Friends of Different Races is Enough”
Diversity among friends and acquaintances is a great start, but it’s not the end goal. True change requires intentional conversations, confronting biases, and teaching children to stand up for racial justice and equity.
Navigating Conversations with Empathy
Empathy is key. When we teach our children to empathize with others, they’re more likely to grow into compassionate, aware adults. Discussing race with kids isn’t about assigning blame; it’s about fostering understanding, kindness, and a desire to build a better world.
What Moms Can Do
Start Early: Introduce concepts of fairness, kindness, and cultural respect from a young age.
Engage Honestly: Share age-appropriate historical and social truths. Teach children that learning about the past helps shape a more equitable future.
Model the Behavior: Kids watch and learn from their parents. Be open, honest, and willing to have difficult conversations.
Motherhood is political, and by leading these discussions, we can raise a generation that champions equity, empathy, and justice.