Mom Perfection is A Lie
Ardenia dives into the myth of mom perfection, offering a heartfelt exploration of the unrealistic expectations placed on mothers. She challenges the notion that mothers must excel in every aspect of life—be it personal appearance, home organization, or parenting style—and underscores the importance of authenticity over perfection. Ardenia invites listeners to reject societal pressures, embrace their own parenting journey, and find solace in the understanding that imperfection is not only natural but necessary for growth. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, this episode is a call to mothers everywhere to give themselves grace, seek support when needed, and celebrate the beautifully imperfect journey of motherhood.
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Feeling like you need to have it all together all the time? Here’s why it’s time to let go of the unattainable myth of mom perfection and embrace a more authentic, joyful journey.
Letting Go of Performative Perfection
Too often, moms feel pressured to present an image of having it all together. This "performative perfection" can be isolating and exhausting. While it’s natural to want to show your best self, constantly striving for perfection sets unrealistic expectations and drains you of joy. True strength comes from finding one safe space—whether with a partner, friend, or therapist—where you can be vulnerable and honest without judgment.
The Evolution of Modern Motherhood
Parenting looks very different today than it did generations ago. Gone are the days of neighborhood villages where everyone pitched in. Instead, moms today often shoulder the bulk of child-rearing duties, all while managing careers, homes, and social expectations. The pressure to be a "perfect mom" at all times is a modern construct—and it’s time to dismantle it.
Challenging Unrealistic Expectations
The Snapback Culture: Society’s obsession with moms "snapping back" to their pre-baby bodies sets an unhealthy precedent. Bodies change after childbirth, and that’s natural. Moms should feel celebrated, not pressured, during postpartum.
Returning to Work Too Soon: The lack of federal paid maternity leave in the U.S. forces many moms back to work before they’ve healed physically or bonded enough with their newborns. This needs to change.
Perfect Homes and Curated Lives: Social media can amplify feelings of inadequacy as we compare ourselves to curated images of spotless homes and effortlessly stylish moms. Reality is far more chaotic and messy—and that’s okay.
Six Ways to Break the Cycle of Mom Perfection
Let Go of Performative Perfection: You don’t have to impress anyone. Find a space where you can be real.
Accept that Parenting Comes with Losses: Like any challenging journey, there are ups and downs. Learning from mistakes is part of growth.
Call in Reinforcements: Create or hire your own village. Get help from tutors, therapists, friends, or family when needed.
Set a Budget for Your Time, Energy, and Money: Not everything can fit in a day. Prioritize what matters most to your family and drop the rest.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: Every family’s journey is unique. Tune out social media noise and trust your instincts.
Give Yourself Grace: Be kind to yourself. Appreciate how much you’re doing and silence your inner critic.
You are doing a great job, Mama. Let go of perfection and embrace authenticity. That’s where true strength and joy are found.